Last
year I became the youngest Lead Teacher on the Infant/Toddler side in my center
and that was a huge adjustment for not only me but also the families in which I
worked with. I had three strikes against me from the moment I agreed to the
position, I was the youngest, I have no children and I am a lesbian. The teachers in which I worked with knew
about my sexual orientation, but I made it my business to shield that from the
families, because I did not want that to be an issue in which the parents
questioned my teaching ability. From the beginning, the families fought with me
and on the sly questioned my ability to care for their children. I followed and
still follow all guidelines and show my students as much love and care as my
heart and their heart can hold, but at times it still feels like it is not
enough. I must admit that it is very frustrating and I even go home crying and
feel defeated because all I want from the families is to see that I care about
their child’s well-being, that I am their advocate, that I am competent and
that this is not a baby-sitting job for me.
From looking at the demographics
in my classroom, most would believe it would be a breeze, but to their surprise,
it is not. Most of the families I service are between the ages of 22-29 and I
even have a lesbian headed family. These
family structures are the ones in which at times makes my workday a stressful
one. In my experience, I have had the following issues in working with these
families. They include:
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Families do not read daily grams,
flyers, newsletters or etc.
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Families do not complete Home Enrichment's/class projects
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Families do not show up for center wide
events
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Families do not come to parent-teacher
conference meetings
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Families do not volunteer/donate
Although
my first year has not been ideal, I have built a few lasting partnerships with
some of the families in my classroom. I can honestly say that I can see the
progression that some of my children have made and they tug at my heartstrings.
I believe that we as professionals go the extra mile to welcome families and
invite families in the learning environment regardless of classism, race, age,
cultural background, sexual preference or even family make-up. It is my hope
that families remove their own biasness and see the greater picture, which is
to build strong, independent, intelligent, diverse, respectful young children.